Do you ever wonder why some relationships grow and thrive over the years while others disintegrate?
A relationship which is full of passion in the beginning may not survive a decade, while one which grows slowly may flourish into something that only gets better and better with time.
The key here is deliberate passion.
When we first fall in love, the emotions are heady, and the connection is sometimes so immediate and intoxicating that it feels like it’s out of our control. Over time, as that initial intensity fades, we need to make deliberate efforts.
Think of it like watering a plant. If you don’t water the plant, it is going to wither. Relationship rituals nourish our connections and strengthen them, allowing partners to grow together in love. Here are 10 relationship rituals all happy couples observe!
11 1. Remember to laugh
22 2. Accept that the relationship is something they share, not something either of them own
33 3. Ask questions
Over time, as that knowledge gets more and more saturated, curiosity can wane. It is important however to recognize that curiosity is not the same thing as interest! Just because someone is not a huge unknown to you anymore, that does not mean you cannot continue to show interest.
Not only that, but all of us are changing every single day. There is no possible way you can know everything about another person, when each day that person is making discoveries and changing in little ways (and sometimes huge ways)! Share that journey by asking questions. That is how you keep a relationship fresh over the years, instead of drifting further and further apart.
44 4. Say “thank you”
55 5. Do romantic things
Then we wonder a few years down the road what happened. Why has all the intimacy gone out of the relationship? Maybe because you have both taken each other for granted and stopped doing the things that made you feel so close and loved and special!
There is nothing truly romantic about going out of your way to impress someone just so you can give it up when you feel secure with them! What is truly romantic is continuing to make those efforts long after you tie the knot. Happy couples do not see romance as a means to an end, but as something to celebrate in and of itself.
66 6. They keep doing the activities they did when they first hooked up
If you got together by playing tennis, and a few years go by and you don’t play tennis anymore, why would you expect the magic to linger? If you both used to love to talk about challenging ideas, but you have set them aside because you have become insecure, why would you expect your relationship to stay strong? Don’t give up on the activities that brought you together. Let them evolve, but never let them go.
77 7. They don’t give up on sex
But why should sex be something you only do when you happen to be in the mood? What does that say about your interest in your partner? When you let your relationship only exist for your convenience, and neglect it the rest of the time, you are letting yourself and your partner down.
Couples that take an intentional approach to sex and never stop learning about each other in the bedroom have more fun and enjoy more intimacy. Remember, you and your partner are changing over time; none of us are static. Odds are that there is always new ground to explore!
88 8. They listen
99 9. They schedule deliberate time to be together
Happy couples prioritize each other. They schedule time just for each other, even when they are busy. They respect each others’ schedules and understand when time is limited, but they never allow relationship time to “just happen.” They make it happen.
1010 10. They practice the golden rule and then some
They take this rule a step further. They treat their partner as their partner wants to be treated. They celebrate each others’ uniqueness. They have empathy for each other, but they also realize that they cannot read each others’ minds and emotions. They ask for clarification when they need it, and they strive to understand each others’ unique needs.
The bottom line with relationships is that they are always changing and evolving, and that is a good thing. Relationships fall apart when then are taken for granted. So long as you approach your partner with intentional daily gratitude, love, interest and passion, your relationship should flourish!