No matter how in love you are, there may come a time when your relationship just doesn’t feel right. That uneasiness could just be the typical restlessness couples sometimes feel or it could be a sign you’re not with your best match. In fact, you may have fallen for the wrong person.
What’s the key to falling in love with the right person? Jeannie Assimos, eHarmony’s vice president of content, says it’s all about who you choose to love. “If you don’t change your mate selection mechanism, you will subconsciously choose the same heartache every time. You will ignore the obvious red flags, believing, that this relationship will be different… but nothing changes,” she reports on the eHarmony blog. “The key to finding true love is to discover the mechanism in your subconscious which fits like a puzzle piece with potential partners. You don’t have to change how you act, your clothes, your weight, or your personality; you just need to shift your piece of the puzzle. When your puzzle piece shifts, you will see that the men or women you meet will start to change as well.”
Here are some signs you might be with the wrong person.
1. Your self-esteem has taken a hit
Love shouldn’t hurt. If you find that you feel worse about yourself after spending time with your partner, it’s time to re-evaluate your relationship. Unfortunately, once your self-esteem has diminished due to a bad relationship, a vicious cycle begins where you continue to accept poor treatment because you feel you either can’t do better or don’t deserve better. “People with low self-esteem tend to be less confident that other people perceive them in a positive light. They doubt whether strangers will like them, and they’re not sure if the people they’re close to will continue to like, love, accept, or want them,” psychologist Alice Boyes says on her blog.