When your child gets married, it’s a time for celebration. Not only are they beginning a new chapter with the one they love, but you also gain a daughter- or son-in-law — exciting stuff. And maybe out of the deal, you’re gaining a daughter or son you feel like you really connect with, making you even more likely to smother and coddle the newlyweds. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to help. But there’s a reason why around 60% of women say their relationship with their mother-in-law is “strained” at best or “simply awful” at worst.
Don’t make this one horrible mistake that will wreck everything.
The worst mistake: Assuming your child won’t change after they get married
People change over time, there’s no doubt about it. And the absolute worst mistake you can make is forgetting your child needs to grow and develop on their own. Once your child is married, the dynamics of your relationship are likely to change — and that’s totally OK. Psychologist Terri Apter tells Newsweek “mothers should assume that they will need to negotiate” the new way they’ll interact with their married offspring. You certainly won’t lose them, but you’ll need to keep this in mind.
And this isn’t the only mistake you should avoid. Here are a few more that are just as bad.