Most of your friends are married and you’re feeling a bit left out. You still haven’t found the love of your life and you’re feeling pretty desperate. At this point, you’re starting to lose hope. Now that friends, family, co-workers, and even your neighbors are asking if you’re ever getting married, the pressure is on. Before you make a decision that you’ll regret later, remember that marriage isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. It’s not rainbows and glitter unicorns everyday (or even most days). Here are five marriage myths you shouldn’t believe.
1. The sex will be awesome
Um … OK. Married sex can get stale — really stale. Don’t believe all your married friends who tell you that once you get married you’ll be having dirty sex non-stop. After you’ve been married for a couple of years, it’s just not as exciting. You’ll have to work at keeping things fresh and tingly. And as your partner’s body starts to age (and expand), you may not even want to do it at all.
If sex has gotten boring, it will be important to strengthen your communication as a couple. A less-than-satisfying sex life is often a result of some disconnect in communication. Perhaps you got too busy to have meaningful conversations, or your children have taken up all your time and energy. Therapist Bob Taibbi recommends reconnecting through common interests. “If you have lost common interests because the kids are gone, because you’ve both fallen into a rut and shackled by routines, you need to go out, explore and act on anything that catches your attention — the tango lessons, the Saturday hiking, taking a class together, or starting up weekend dinner parties — the wilder the better,” Taibbi told Psychology Today.