Sometimes, it takes more than a spoken “I love you” to show your partner how much you care. There are times when you may find yourself in a situation where you need to show your partner how much you love them in a way that truly speaks to them. There are many ways to show you care, but before you go book a weekend getaway or splurge on those designer jeans they’ve been obsessing over, you’ll need to determine what will mean the most to them.
According to author Gary Chapman, developer of the idea of love languages and writer of The New York Times best-seller The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, there are five basic ways to show your partner your love. One or two ways may speak more to your partner than the rest, and once you’ve determined what those modes of love are, you can show your partner you care in the most meaningful way possible.
1. Uninterrupted time
This love language is becoming harder and harder to do properly, with the distractions of TV, kids, friends, and possibly the biggest offender: your cellphone. Focused, uninterrupted time means spending time specifically focused on each other while banning the daily distractions that get in the way.
People who crave quality time will feel neglected if you’re half-listening to them as you think of weekend plans or ask them a question as you continue typing an email. Even though you may be sitting right next to them asking all the “right” questions, they may feel completely distant from you. This love language focuses on togetherness and quality conversations that let your partner know you truly care.